A: Hows things on your side?
B: Doctors are having a hard time treating mum
Everyday I am trying to keep positive
A: I think that it is better that I do not say anything as I feel that it might come out different.
B: Please say
A: Trying hard to put what I have in my mind into words
Every living being has to die at some point. We can only do what we can. Does that mean emotions have no meaning? I don't know but accepting things helps to overcome a lot of such emotional things. I just don't know how to put these things into words.
B: Try
A: I have asked this myself many times.. would I feel sad, depressed if something happened to my dad or mom and they passed away. I probably would not feel anything.. I would rather be feeling good for them as they didn't have to suffer more as they get older.
B: Define suffer
A: mental stuff or physical, anything
like diseases, thinking about stuff n getting stressed about it etc
B: I understand. Thanks for sharing
A: There is also this as well. My grandma like to eat tasty foods. There are few foods that she has to avoid as she has had a small heart attack. There are also few other problems that she has for which she has to avoid consuming few things. But she doesn't do that. She prefers eating tasty food over her health. We try to warn her but she says.. we've to enjoy while we are alive. My mom says, if you pass away in one go then its fine.. but you'll end up in hospital and have to suffer a lot thats why we ask to take care of health. Despite all this she is a bit careless about it so it is of no use to be worried about these things. We can only do our part and they have to go through the suffering themselves
Forget all this, consider my situation itself when I got my back burnt. Everyone felt bad about the incident, other patients wanted us to file complaint on the hospital. Would all that help my suffering at that moment go away? I have to bare it and deal with it even though it was an accident. I have got treated well in the hospital before and this one accident shouldn't overcome those.
A: And in your current case, I would probably look at things this way. Just be happy that you're able to be with your mother and spend time with your mother everyday. Cherish all the moments that you spend with her, this is where living for a day concept helps.
B: I understand. Again thanks for sharing
A: Not sure if I conveyed what I had in my mind properly.. but if it helped then you're welcome
B: I see your perspective. I have understood your thoughts. I will update my own perspective based on your inputs.
So in a way, it has helped
In fact all your communication is always a help to me
I get great value from talking with you.
A: Good to hear that